It happens to you every time.. You see "the" girl across the room and your temperature starts to rise, your
hands get sweaty and your heart starts pounding. You wish you could go talk to her, get to know her and ask her out on a date, but your gripping fear of rejection stops you. So you wait and wait, and sure enough you see another guy start to talk to her and she is smiling, laughing and having a good time with that other guy. Another opportunity lost.
If you've experienced this scenario and feel you are someone who just can't seem to gather the courage to
meet a girl you're interested in, have no fear - help is on the way. From my experience, I'm convinced that the very first step
that every guy needs to make when it comes to meeting women is to "Find Your Inner Alpha." Alpha in this case is not about anything the Greek alphabet; I'm talking about how to become an "Alpha Male." An Alpha Male is a guy who is unapologetic about his immediate desires and goals. He is outwardly confidant, opinionated, and not afraid to take risks in the
face of adversity. Alpha Males exude an air of masculinity and self-assurance that is felt when they enter a room. The best example would be James Bond.
I know right now you're thinking, "Well that's just not me." Well, I know that, and that's why I'm writing this. There are of course natural Alpha Males who just have "it' and they have no problem meeting women. I'm saying that even if you are not a natural, there are a few concepts to think about that will help you change your perception of the dating game and will exponentially improve your ability to approach "the" girl across the room. Let me be clear that I don't subscribe to "pick-up artist" routines. Whether or not those routines work will not change the fact that you have the wrong state of mind. Tapping into your Inner Alpha is all about a state of mind and an understanding of what many women are attracted to. OK, enough background, let's get to it.
She's out of my league
The heart pounding and sweaty palms are a simple reaction to a state of mind that is telling
you, "She's out of my league." Let me say to you once and for all that "NO ONE IS OUT OF ANYONE'S LEAGUE." To get you to understand this I have to put your self-esteem on trial. The bottom line is that if you don't like you, how can you expect someone else to like you too? If you are not enjoying life, how can you expect someone to want to share their life with you? So, the first baby step here is to first like yourself and start enjoying life. Most girls don't want to get to know a constant downer. Once you have this state of mind intact, you will be amazed at how this will naturally draw people, especially women,
toward you like a magnet.
There is nothing to fear but fear itself
The reason Alpha Males are so successful with women is because they have absolutely no fear of rejection. Why? Because at the simplest level if you like who you are and are enjoying life, then you really don't have anything to lose. The mind set for you to adopt here is that it's not your loss if the girl rejects you; it's actually her loss for not wanting to be a part of your awesome life.
If you think of it that way, than you can brush any girl's rejection off without a second thought. Ending your fear once and for all is the most liberating feeling because you know that you have only something to gain. It's not about being an extrovert, but it is being comfortable in your own skin and seeing everything as an opportunity instead of a potential disaster.
You don't need her to be happy
Probably the most paralyzing thing for men is they think that their "manhood" will be shattered if they don't get the girl they want. This thought alone is what keeps most men from approaching women; it is essentially ego damage control. Men falsely believe that approaching a woman is like a minefield and all it takes is one wrong step and the girl will detonate on them. This false mind set is what makes men tread far too lightly when meeting women and they try to do and say everything just right to please her. If you think like this, you have lost the battle before it's even begun. The reality is that most women are extremely
attracted to men who give off the impression that they don't need her to be happy.
Once a woman senses this, she is the one who becomes curious as to why you are so content with yourself and your life. Alpha Males have a keen ability to make a woman feel that they have to meet his standard. This mind set is the complete
opposite of what most men do and that is to try to live up to her standard by trying to say all the right things, give too many compliments, offer to buy her a drink, and all the other Beta Male ploys that typically fail and result in rejection.
Nice guys finish last!
If you are constantly striking out and wondering why the bad boys always end up with the girls you have to understand that their success is not because they are bad, it's because they are Alpha. Most bad boys are risk takers by nature, and they usually say exactly what's on their mind and don't care what anyone thinks about them. While they may be destructive in their relationships, the key to their approach success is that most women are initially attracted to a guy
who is not afraid to put all his chips on the table and just go for it. I know it's easier said then done, but again the Alpha mind set is all about exuding a confidence about yourself that is undeniable to women. Now go find you Inner Alpha and the girls will find you!
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